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Traditions are very much like puppet masters when it comes to weddings. Everything from the food served to the guests to the clothes worn by the couple is picked based on what the community's elders did in their time. Most often, this even extends to more minor things like deciding who pays for the groom's wedding ring.
However, we've recently seen a change in perspectives. Several couples choose to steer away from long-held traditions and instead establish their own. This leads to a lot of different customs globally and even locally.
In short, there is no 'right answer' to whether or not a man buys his own wedding ring. There are a set of answers, and we're going to discuss each one. In the end, you have to decide which one feels right for you.
In today's world, a soon-to-be-married couple gives each other rings. And this exchange happens as part of the wedding ceremony. When one partner gives the other a wedding ring, the ring transcends material value and symbolizes the love they have for the other. But this wasn't always the case.
Up until Ancient Egypt, the concept of a man's wedding band didn't exist. Even so, the women got rings made of ivory or bone to symbolize their loyalty. Similarly, in the Roman Empire, the bands were a symbol of a man's claim over his woman.
Therefore - despite the different meanings they held back then - it is believed that women's wedding bands have existed for a while. But the same doesn't hold true for men.
In America, men didn't begin receiving wedding ring until World War II. And even then, their partners only bought them once they had been drafted and were going out to war.
When deciding whether or not a man will buy his own wedding band, it's important to sit down and recognize what it means to you. Only then will you be able to make the right choice for yourself.
It's no secret that men are more likely to be financially independent than their female counterparts. This is because of long-held oppressive systems that society is slowly breaking down. That being said, the fact that women didn't have a lot of money in the past influenced how society established traditions.
The men were the breadwinners of their household and, therefore, took control of overall purchases. While times have changed, and women are in stronger financial positions now, the traditions still hold.
If you and your partner are traditionalists and want to follow the path of your ancestors, then the man will buy his own wedding ring.
For a lot of people, traditions are synonymous with rules. And while that is okay, it's important to note that all customs are typically binary. They assume that the married couple involves a man and woman and that these two individuals exist in the same circumstances as all those around them.
For instance, the custom outlined above assumes that a man has more money than a woman. It also assumes that the other party involved is a woman. Maybe the woman is the breadwinner of her house, or the couple has two grooms and zero brides. Does the man buy his own wedding ring? Or does one groom buy both grooms' rings?
Given the disparity in circumstances, it's quite possible that the typical way of doing things doesn't suit you. Even if you're a heterosexual couple, it's likely that you don't fit in the box, and that's okay.
All couples don't enter marriage on equal footing. There are families with female breadwinners, and in such a relationship, there is no reason why she shouldn't buy both wedding bands. It makes the most sense from a financial perspective.
By looking for the ring together but paying herself, the woman can ensure her man is comfortable with the band without putting undue pressure on him. In this circumstance, the man doesn't buy his own wedding band.
Another option is shopping together. The couple can go out looking for wedding bands and then split the overall cost. This is fiscally responsible since you can both sit down before going out and set a budget.
Additionally, it sets you up for a partnership. By taking the first step together, you lay down a precedent of collaboration for the future.
Another option for non-traditionalists is surprising each other. The man doesn't buy his own wedding band; he buys his partner's. In return, the partner purchases a band for their groom.
Many people deem this option more romantic and personal. Since you're looking for a ring that embodies your love for your partner, you'll make sure it is perfect. And this emotional involvement makes the gift meaningful.
Shopping for each other also establishes a sense of equality in your relationship. Knowing that you're both on equal footing is important. Additionally, this option is a lot of fun. Assuming you have a deep affection for your partner, you'll have a great time spending a few days trying to find the best wedding band for them. The love and intention that goes into this process are unparalleled.
Whether or not a man buys his own wedding band is completely up to the couple in question. This is a decision you have to make together; just know that there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way. The right way is whatever makes the both of you the happiest.
One way to make the shopping experience easier and less stressful is to look at wedding band sets. This involves purchasing the same style ring in different sizes and possibly different width, for example, size 5 in 6mm width for the women and size 10 in 8mm width for the man.
Trying to find rings that complement each other is an art and often more difficult than it sounds. But regardless of who ends up buying the bands, your wedding will be a magical experience. And at the end of the day, that is all that matters.
If you are in the market looking for a wedding band for a man, woman or both we highly encourage you to have a look at the tungsten and ceramic wedding bands we offer at Steven G Designs.
Our ceramic rings are mainly in black color. The black color is solid throughout the ring. We also have some unique styles with a combination of ceramic and wood or ceramic and carbon fiber.
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